Villadom Times Weekly Newpaper Online-September 2, 2009 Issue

Page 6 THE VILLADOM TIMES I • September 2, 2009 September Brides (ARA) Wedding traditions can and do change. And, sometimes, traditions should change. So says Peggy Post, the greatgrand-daughter-in-law of Emily Post, today’s leading authority on etiquette and 9-2-09 janine the author of a dozen books. Post provides enlightened solutions to weddings quesSeptBridesBanner tions. 6 x .75 are a few established wedding traHere ditions that have taken on a fresh twist in recent years: Old: The bride’s family pays for the wedding. New: Today, just 27 percent of weddings are paid for by the bride’s family. Even a simple affair can have a significant cost, so it is not surprising that families attack this in different ways. The bride’s family may pay. The couple may pay, or the groom’s family, the bride’s family, and the couple may share expenses. What is important is that the bride- and groom-to-be discuss the budget early to ensure a smooth path to the altar. Old: There should be no more than six bridesmaids and six groomsmen. New: You can have as many or as few attendants as you want; there is no maximum and minimum. Even at a big, formal wedding, just one or two attendants on each side are acceptable. Because groomsmen/ ushers have the responsibility of seating guests at the ceremony, the rule of thumb is one usher for every 50 guests, and it is fine to have more ushers than bridesmaids. Old: The bridal bouquet must be white or, at the very least, subdued. New: Bouquets can be as beautiful and varied as the brides who carry them. Vibrant wildflowers, lavender roses that match the bridesmaids’ dresses, the groom’s favorite flower - all are acceptable and wonderful. A Fall Wedding Showcase The new wedding etiquette: How traditions have changed �� Hair Care �� Brides, however, should consider guests who might have allergies to certain flowers. Old: The mother of the groom shouldn’t choose her dress until the mother of the bride has chosen hers. New: Traditionally, the mother of the bride chooses her dress and then notifies the mother of the groom of its style and shade so she can purchase a dress that complements, but doesn’t exactly match, the bride’s mother and attendants. Today, the mother of the groom should select an outfit she feels beautiful and comfortable in and that is appropriate for the time of day and formality of the wedding. If the bride’s mother has not contacted the groom’s mother, it is perfectly fine for mother of the groom to initiate that phone call to discuss dress details. Old: Traditional household appliances and linens are the best wedding presents. New: Any gift that is thoughtfully chosen is fine. Some couples today have already combined households and may not need a blender, compact toaster oven, or set of bath towels. Gift registries are now the norm, and handy things they are for guests who may not know the couple as well as they might like. And don’t be surprised by a registry that may contain non-traditional items like chipping in on vacations and mortgage payments. Old: Guests shouldn’t wear white or black to a wedding. New: You can wear white as long as it doesn’t look like a wedding dress. If you wear black, it should look like you are attending a wedding, not a funeral. Also consider time of day, location, and any rules of attire specified by religion (for example, bare shoulders or too much cleavage or leg showing). Old: All guests should receive handwritten thank you notes for their gifts. New: Sorry, there’s no changing this one! All guests should receive hand-written thank you notes for their gifts. Save the e-mails for lunch dates and businessrelated thank you notes. �� ♥�� ♥�� ♥�� ♥�� ♥�� Friendly  Spontaneous Artistic  Fun  Beautiful Fine Art Wedding & Portrait Photography Whatever milestone of life you are celebrating, trust Dragonﬂy Studio to capture those moments. moments www.dragonﬂystudiocafe.com 201.696.6003 �� 9-2-09 janine �� Dragonﬂy2x2(9-2-09) �� 2x2” �� Welcomes your press releases photographs